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Why You Should Stop Chasing Love

It has been too long you have waited for love to come around and now even though it hasn’t you are still wasting your time waiting for it. Waiting for love is not wrong but waiting, but not living is.

In order to see yourself happy you need to let go of the idea that only love can make you happy, another person is a key to your happiness. If even it was true there would have been more happy couples in the world.

We know it gets lonely at times, but there is strength in finding solitude, feeling it is a sign that you still feel things. Even though you think you are dying inside, it is not true.

Stop chasing love. Love shouldn’t be chased it should come to you. It’s better to wait then to go after things that don’t mean anything to them or you, which makes you nothing but desperate. Stop telling yourself that you are not lovable. Don’t get into an unnamed relationship thinking they can complete you. Don’t do that to yourself. All that sex you have to feel something is not going to bring love to you, it is going to shatter you in ways you never imagined.

Stop putting so much faith in that person that knows what you want but can’t give you that. Stop chasing them for the love they can never offer you. Stop giving them parts of you that they don’t care to acknowledge. I know it’s hard not to be cared about; I know you want to be loved back. Each time you offer yourself to them they are not capable of offering the same to you. So stop offering yourself.

Let me tell you what you actually deserve. Everything! You deserve everything you ever wanted. You are lovable and you are capable of loving back. Think about the lonely nights you spent wallowing for love and crying over thinking you are going to end up alone.

It is time now that you stop chasing love, it is the time that you make yourself great first, do justice to yourself and love yourself first. You will move on from the old wounds and you will find happiness. Be patient and explore yourself and the world.

Stop chasing love and start living your life. Go travel, go learn something. Stare at the moon for long hours and do nothing. Find a passion, write, Cook good food, eat good food, do what makes you happy. Build something today so that tomorrow you can cherish it. Let it be the symbol of your strength.

Stop cashing love and start living life because when you stop the chase love will stop running.

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 Akansha Bhatt is an Indian blogger and writer who writes about life and poetry.

© This article was originally published on Thought Catalog.




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